Horsey Therapist

Friday, May 11, 2007

From my AZ notes

[This belongs here in this blog, not in my clinic notes blog. But it is from my clinic notes, February 2007 in AZ with Harry Whitney.]




Talk with Harry in evening: I got stuck wanting to finish something I started, doing it my way. Talking about my narrow mindedness that showed up with Cajun in the afternoon and my insistence on him doing what I asked regardless of what he could understand today, and regardless of how he was feeling. I forgot to think creatively about how to help him feel better!

Feeling a bit haunted by what Harry and I talked about and facing my issues. He asked something like would I expect a kid to know it all right away. And my answer was 'yes', because my expectations are way off! Today I forgot how little Cajun knows because it had been going so well. I forgot that just because it was going well in the arena, it didn't mean we had enough time and repetition so he would be able to "listen" under stress.

On the trail at the end Cajun was stressed, feeling too separated from the herd. It never occurred to me to notice that and take that into consideration creatively. It never occurred to me to give up my idea and try something else. Like Harry said, after the fact about the reins: either the horse gives to them or they're not there. I didn't have to try to use what worked with Belle with Cajun, especially when I felt it's not working and I was just "shouting" through the reins and he wasn't with me. I expected too much of Cajun. I failed to think creatively about how to help him feel better. I forgot how little he knows about how to let go of a thought. Argh at me! For applying what worked with Belle on Cajun.

Why couldn't I access some creativity or even some other solutions? Where had my brain gone? Ideas Harry suggested were: take a short cut to catch up; trot up to group; simple stuff. At that point I was focussed on my little plan of how to deal -- STUCK!

And it makes me feel so sad!

How can I dare to be creative? How can I remember that Cajun isn't Belle? How can I hone/fine tune the balance between helping the horse let go of their thought so my thoughts have room, and going along with their thoughts too much and letting them take over? I want to be better at this!!!! More fair and understanding to the horse!!

This amazing gap between what I can mentally grasp about horses and how I perform when with them. OUCH.




Amazing what can be learned when one is willing to face the septic tank of the soul...

2 Comments:

At 11 May, 2007 17:06, Blogger ZinniaZ said...

"Why couldn't I access some creativity or even some other solutions? Where had my brain gone? Ideas Harry suggested were: take a short cut to catch up; trot up to group; simple stuff. At that point I was focussed on my little plan of how to deal -- STUCK!

And it makes me feel so sad!

How can I dare to be creative? How can I remember that Cajun isn't Belle? How can I hone/fine tune the balance between helping the horse let go of their thought so my thoughts have room, and going along with their thoughts too much and letting them take over? I want to be better at this!!!! More fair and understanding to the horse!!"

Is it possible that your brain and Cajun's brain were gone for forgivably similar reasons? Cajun and Belle are not the same. Are you the same in the arena as out? Are you the same as Harry?

Be as patient with yourself as you are with the horse....

I LOVE that photo. I want to go on one of these excursions.

 
At 11 May, 2007 19:08, Blogger LJB said...

These were thoughts from February, and indeed, I looked at my absence as a similar process to Cajun's -- fear! And Cajun helped me be not afraid, well, Cajun and Harry who was coaching me as I rode that afternoon. I learn patience and gentleness from Harry who offers that to his students.

I've been experimenting here at home since February, getting more in tune with my horses as I ride and letting him do what they need to to feel OK, and when I'm really alert, not ever asking so much of them that they get very worried at all.

It feels good to all of us, and the success is showing in rides like I had today. For one, my comfort zone has expanded. For two, my horses' comfort zones have expanded. Synchronicity? I'm sure! :-) It feels really good that I'm so much better at not expecting unrealistic things from my horses.

I was thinking lots more about those questions I had about Kacee a few months ago. I'll have to get some of thoughts blogged out here.

Meanwhile, I had an entertaining and lively ride on her this afternoon, then a ride on Bo without any other horse in or near the arena! New horizons!

 

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